Divorce is an event, a lifestyle, a "thing," a freak occurrence, and/or a game-changer. No one is exactly sure what divorce is, but there is one thing we do know: It affects families in unique, very personal ways. But the divorce rate stays its course at a cool 50%, and affects more children as the population rises.
One filmmaker decided it was high time the children affected by divorce had complete control of the floor. Ellen Bruno, a San Francisco filmmaker and former international relief worker, raised money on Kickstarter to fund her latest documentary, "Split". The documentary is scheduled to be released on June 8th later this year, with the SPLIT website already collecting orders for the DVD.
Kids Run the Show
The SPLIT website displays a startling statistic: "Almost half the children in the U.S. will experience their parent's separation before the age of 16 -- more than any other county in the western world." This little known fact is possibly what caused Bruno to create a documentary about divorce and include interviews only from children.
The opinions, stories, information, and advice in "Split" comes from children between the ages of 6 years old and 12 years old. In an interview conducted by Vicki Larson, Bruno divulged that she originally scheduled filmed interviews with 18 children. But through the course of several the interviews, Bruno said "it was clear within minutes that it would not be helpful to them to have this conversation, so we stopped."
And so Bruno's documentary became the musings and outlet of 12 children between the ages of 6 and 12 who had gone through a divorce.
No Minor Status, No Service
Most (if not all) documentaries include footage of a professional to provide viewers a credible source to learn from. But "Split" is one documentary that is completely "professional" free.
"Kids are wise and intuitive, and when given the space to share their experiences, they speak truth that is clear and profound," says Bruno. "And kids listen to other kids, often far more attentively than they listen to adults."
This is a novel, yet completely understandable stance to take when creating a documentary about how divorce affects children. The children who have gone through a divorce may not be certified, and may not have a diploma hanging on the wall of an office, but they certainly are experts of their own familial situation.
In watching the sneak peek videos, there is no need for the camera to swivel to a therapist, sitting behind a desk, explaining what the child means when she says, "It's like something that you really love, like, breaks, and you can't put it back together, kind of."
Survivors
But "Split" is not about doom, gloom, and the end of the world. On the contrary, "Split" is about children showing other children that life can, and does, get better. Bruno wanted this documentary, which is by, from, and for children, to balance the children's realities with their expectations. Essentially, she wanted the documentary to commiserate and unite the children of divorce while simultaneously showing them the light at the end of the tunnel.
Bruno's other motivation behind creating this documentary was to provide parents, therapists, and others a raw look at how children process divorce. Certainly, it's a strange and looming topic for children so small, but it's not insurmountable.